Kya Aap Joru ke Gulaam Hain? (Are you a Servant to your wife?)

Like my routine dinner time, I was surfing through the channels of my Idiot Box (TV) and not so surprisingly it was full of same old crappy bakwaas as it has everyday. I was about to switch it off until I noticed the very own apna desi version of "The Moment of Truth" called "Sach Ka Samna" on one of the channels. The first thought which came to my mind was "DARN ANOTHER COPIED SHOW" from the international television.
Since I have seen the original version of the show I was pretty much familiar with the content of the show and quite shocked to see a show of such a nature being launched in India. I think we all are in a time where things have changed a lot and TV channels are bothered more about TRP’s than anything else and without any doubt reality shows are the latest scoop on television so nothing bad in having our desi version being launched on air.

Ok, that was about the show now about its questions. Wow, trust me the questions on the show are real killers literally they make the contestant to face the real Sach Ka Samna. So, there was this very interesting question being asked to a gentleman – Kya Aap Joru Ke Gulaam Hain? The poor guy responded with a completely embarrassed face almost quietly saying “YES” and it erupted into all so much of an embarrassment for the family members of the gentleman, who came along with him to attend the show.

The way the question was answered annoyed me as it showcased in a way that if a guy helps his wife in her work at home is a Gulaam. Unfortunately, the state of our society is in this shameful situation only, where if a husband is helping his wife in her work at home he is made to believe that he is a “Joru Ka Gulaam”. This is such a taboo of our society where if a woman is working day & night at home she will never be compared to servant but if a man is helping her wife, he picks up the tag of so called Joru Ka Gulaam very soon. I feel our gender biased society is so evil that even the gentleman sitting on the hot seat of the show was made to say that his feeling of love to help his wife in what she does, is nothing but he being a Gulaam to her.

I think men are responsible for their own deeds. The open mindedness of men is facing the hurdles of the evils of past, when men represented themselves as the Swami to their wives and now when they are helping their wives they have to do it secretly to avoid being called as the Joru Ka Gulaam. I feel it’s high time that society abolish this shameful tag of Joru Ka Gulaam and when next time this question is asked on a TV show, men should confidently answer the question by saying NO and making a wife jubilant in joy instead of being embarrassed on national television.

AUSTIN POWER TO WOMEN POWER:A GREAT TRANSITION

I believe today we are in the era where women are very much self dependent and there are very few ladies who stay at home like a perfect house wives of the yester years. However, even if they are staying it’s by choice rather than any compulsion. I can see a complete makeover for women from the sacrificial image of MATA SITA to the self-dependent elegant ladies like SUSHMITA SEN, who is an ex-Miss Universe and a single actress mother of an adopted child. I think the momentum and the balance have shifted so perfectly well in the society that today women are standing tall, neck to neck with everyone else in the competition. Certainly, it gives me immense satisfaction. I know this revolution has not happened overnight or in few days but it took generations and a complete history to narrate how the ladies turned the tides and finally landed to be what they are today – a Self Confident & a Self Independent Soul.

I think time has transformed a lot and has already surpassed the haunting blues of past when a birth of a girl was considered to be a moment of morn. In fact, the girl is considered to be a LAKSHMI and she literally does because the ultra-mod parents of new India nourishes their girls no less than a future Miss India or beauty queen who will bring fame and mullah. The older time when the word Sacrifice and Women were synonymous to each other has taken a complete deep plunge into the past and today women have taken a brand new avatar of the Bold and the Beautiful. The shift is visible when I see the girls on the streets wearing the comfortable looking shorts and top rather than the choking salwar kurtees. It pleasures my eyes to the most when I see a lady with her untidy hair yet stylish walking in the middle of road oozing with confidence. Size zero is in and the women want to be slim.

I think woman has one thing so special which cannot be found anywhere in the world, which is called feminism. I reckon men surely cannot find anything which is so curvy, beautiful, glamorous and exotic on this planet. On the contrary, I see that women have caused a serious identity crisis for the men. It’s hard to digest but it is true. For instance whenever I go to mall for shopping, I see all the shops filled with women stuff. If at all by luck I go to a big branded store with variety in merchandise, it will at the most have jeans, shirts and t-shirts for me but for ladies, they have tops, t-shirts, skirts, shorts, sarees, suits, one-pieces, sleeve-less etc etc. Come on, we live in a same world. This makes me feel like a citizen with limited rights in my own country. Even worst is when I have to go for a party, my wardrobe will most of the times consist of the same old universal dress code of men, which is a shirt and a trouser and for ladies hmmm…I m too jealous of the vast options they have wooooof!!!

I really do see the ecosystem being changed where “What Men Wants” has changed to “What Women Wants”. In fact the all so amused male dominant society is digging the secrets of how women are managing the many roles together of a wife, a home maker, a daughter and a business tycoon.

I see the changing face and empowerment of women clearly visible. There are more TV shows about the women than men. Every girl wants to be a teen diva or a pit girl in a reality show and that doesn’t stop her from flaunting a bikini on air. I feel ladies are ruling the corporate sectors be it taking advantage of their beauty with brains or weakness of men but as they say it everything is fair in love and war. I think it’s the women power, women era, and yet I m sure all men love them and need them in their life. After all there is always a woman behind a successful man.